No longer so reluctant to turn in for the night, two-year-old May often goes to bed happily with bursts of song.
But on Sunday she became a flag dancer as well as a nightingale. Tommy, May and I sit at the front during the worship service. There’s a lot going on–people and instruments on the platform, words on the screen, and often flag dancers as well. Today there was one flag dancer, and she came over and offered us flags. I chose shimmering turquoise for May and me, and May waved her flag during the entire worship service.
During Meet and Greet time, May and I shook hands with others nearby. Tommy caught sight of his older friend and raced up to the balcony to greet him.
How can I describe my feelings? I rejoiced that my little granddaughter was so utterly cherished as the flag lady told her Jesus loved to see her flagging.
And Tommy? Tommy knows he belongs. He belongs with his Sunday School teacher and pastor, with his older friend, with the others who welcome him on Sunday mornings, and with his uncle, whom he sometimes helps in the sound booth.
… Jesus said, “Let the children come to me, and don’t try to stop them! People who are like these children belong to God’s kingdom.” Matthew 19:14 (Contemporary English Version)
Parents today are probably the most informed and involved generation in history. And, yet, in the company of their children, they often act as though they’d rather be someplace else. That’s what they’re saying when they break eye contact to glance at their push notifications or check Facebook when they think their child’s distracted. The parents are present, their attention is not.
In my practice, I see evidence every day of how such inattention affects kids. ~Pediatrician Jane Scott
Disturbing indeed: a pediatrician who thought she’d seen it all reports a two-year-old with infected ears turning to Siri on his cell phone–rather than his dad beside him–for info. Although, I gather it didn’t bother Dad too much–he was busy on his phone as well.
Eight-year-old Tommy loves electronics (and his mother wisely restricts his time on them). Nine-year-old Tina uses, rather than loves, gadgets. But both of them are also highly responsive and aware of the needs and feelings of others. They have solid relationships with the people around them. So does two-year-old May.
On the other hand, I recently heard of a young man whose hands are permanently disfigured from using joysticks (he’s still playing).
And I remember reading of a kind of detox program in another country. Although the prognosis for a cure to game addiction was poor, therapists were using physical action figures to try to wean addicts away from the screen.
And that gets me thinking. It appears that electronics are here to stay. Some groups prohibit their use altogether.
Tommy’s and Tina’s moms have opted for teaching sensible use, like watching these French stories on YouTube.
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It looks like parents and other caregivers need to decide on a plan before vulnerable children become socially impaired and/or addicted.
What do you think? Do you agree that this is a cause for concern? If so, do you have suggestions?
Tommy chooses–and pays for–a bouquet of tulips for Tricia. Lisa picks up a case of toiletries sure to please their honored guest. She and Tommy clean up his bedroom, where Tricia will be sleeping. Perhaps Tommy’s giant panda wonders what’s going on.
May’s bedroom, pretty in pink, is ready. This room, however, has not been prepared for a guest. Two-year-old May is coming to live with her forever family.
We are so thankful for Tricia, May’s foster mom. She began visiting May in the hospital when the little girl was a premie, and the two developed a strong bond. Now May, utterly secure in the love of Tricia and her family, is settling in very nicely with her new mom and dad, and big brother Tommy.
Welcome home, little one!