Monthly Archives: March 2015

Live Movie Trailers?

Crocky Jan 2015

Tina is compassionate, patient and heroic in her interactions with her animals.  She no longer wants to be an Emperor Penguin (she was only little then), and the teacher, doctor and (thankfully!) NYC rock star dreams appear to have had their day, at least for now.

I suspect that what we’re seeing is preparation for a lifestyle of nurturing and gentle guidance.

I find it interesting that the dinosaur pictured above is neither devouring his contemporaries nor chasing Tina around the room. He is, in fact, learning the alphabet. It has amazed me for years how Tina puts her own spin on toys. A fancy pen becomes a mode of travel through space and time, a doll made by (another) grandma requires medical attention because her brains have migrated to her feet, and the stuffed animals (girls only) are tested to see if they’re pregnant.

Even the traditional teddy bear family pictured below is hiding in a cavern, rescued from hostile creatures by the writer and her granddaughter.

teddies 3 Feb 2015

Tommy’s games are different. Although, like Tina, he’s the “good guy,” he is perhaps “working on” different traits–particularly assertiveness and inventiveness. Or maybe he’s just doing what comes naturally.

In real life, one of Tommy’s chief traits is compassion. I could see him in administration, perhaps of a non-profit organization.

Tommy has one relatively stable and slowly evolving role, while Tina’s roles are more varied and fluid. Tina sets up the parameters for the game, and I operate with relative freedom within them. Tommy tells me both what to say and what to do (could a career in PR be looming?).

Tommy and Tina both have chores, homework and activities, but I’m thankful their parents also allow them down time to explore their worlds–and their places in them–in exactly their own ways. I feel privileged to enter in, and sometimes wonder if I’m being given a sneak preview of what lies ahead.


“I’m just as disappointed as you are, Grandma.”

200196470-001 Grandmother with baby

Tommy’s voice is husky as he empathizes with me.

Earlier that day, Lisa and George picked Tommy up for Lisa’s ultrasound appointment. He left his friends at the after school care with the happy expectation of returning with news. Now he’d know for sure if he was getting a baby brother or baby sister this summer.

Lisa calls first. “No heartbeat,” she says. “I didn’t want you to hear it from Tommy, and I’m sure he’ll be calling you.”

Soon Tommy calls. I’m babysitting Tina at the time, and she reminds me of the movie trailer we saw of Heaven is for Real. Colton met his older sister there, the child his mother had miscarried. Tommy will meet New Baby, too.

Perhaps New Baby is sitting on my mother’s lap now–she enjoyed her grandchildren and great-grandchildren so much.

“He will wipe all tears from their eyes, and there will be no more death, suffering, crying, or pain.” Revelation 21:4